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Emory Babb Let me get this straight, so what happens in a world that is based on the real world, could actually impact the real world? No way! It's about the director refusing to acknowledge that it was rape. IT IS NOT ABOUT THE STORY. IT IS ABOUT THE IMPACT OF MEDIA ON THE WORLD.
Emory Babb Good share, and a good point, but one that doesn't quite cover everything. Yes, rape is an individual's choice. But the individual cannot be abstracted from the society in which he/she lives. The choice is made easier by the low likelihood of reporting, the tendency to blame the victim and question actions, attire, etc., the hundreds of thousands of rape kits dating back to the 80's that remain untested. Our culture has become one in which the decision to rape is not dis-incentivized. It's not explicitly condoned, but every anchor that slut-shames and construction worker that cat-calls contributes to a culture that encourages male violence and female fear of it.
Emory Babb All men aren't rapists, but most rapists are men. This is a men's issue. I'm not trying to paint all men as rapists (being a man myself), but rather encourage people to rethink what is going on around them. How are we (men) supposed to address other serious issues like prison rape and child abuse when people continue to insist there isn't a problem with the system in place to provide redress? Rape culture is not that any man can become a rapist by watching TV. Rape culture is boys growing up to think that scenes like this are not rape, and emulating that down the road. Rape culture is those boys going unpunished, because "boys will be boys." We need to start over with education, but first comes acknowledgment.
Emory Babb We care about what a director thinks when 6.6 million people tune into each episode. Media dictates what society thinks far too often. Rape is a problem we address by passing harsh laws, but not testing the rape kits across the country that stack up into the hundreds of thousands. Rape is a problem we address by hating rapists, but protecting college athletes and other people in powerful positions from the real consequences of their actions. Read this New York Times report on FSU and Jameis Winston for context... http://nyti.ms/QqcMaj
Emory Babb RAINN is still using a study from 1997. This Study is a mere five years newer and still 12 years too old. If we cared about rape as a culture, we would make it safe for people to report rape, so the conservative est. 64% of unreported rapes shrink. Rape is about power, and power is addicting. This study shows un-convicted rapists averaging 5.8 rapes. http://bit.ly/1txSnPZ We don't condone it on the surface. We posture about it and make laws, but nothing gets done. We are uncomfortable talking about sex and more uncomfortable talking about rape, much less recognizing it is a problem of endemic proportions and confronting it.
Emory Babb This isn't about the narrative, ya'll. The problem is the director failing to recognize the truth in what he filmed and created: a rape scene. No matter the context in the series, a rape needs to be recognized as a rape, especially by the person who, in this case, created it. It's the epitome of rape culture - man has sex with woman, ignores her feelings/wants/desires, and then says "that wasn't rape." Rape culture is a culture of willful ignorance. This is sexual assault awareness month... COME ON.
Emory Babb It's not about the rape so much as the director saying that it's not. GOT and other wildly successful series are part of the media that contributes to our cultural values. Calling an explicit rape, "consensual" is contributing to the culture, our culture, that condones rape. Aaaaand yes, most rapists are serial rapists.
Emory Babb Doesn't that tell you something? When they refuse to endorse it as a medicine despite it alleviating symptoms that pharmaceutical drugs attempt to address and often replace with a slew of side effects, including death? The old guard will pass on soon enough.
Emory Babb As commendable as it is that you are going to start teaching, please consider staying in the community you join for more than the required two years! Educating a generation takes long-term commitment.
Emory Babb Stating that we live in a "rape culture" is not "unsubstantiated." One in five women in the US have survived a rape during their lifetime. Nearly TWENTY PERCENT. We live in a male dominated society with men at the head of every investigative and law enforcement agency in the country, and you dismiss the fear felt by women about reporting sexual violence? The majority of the time it is someone the victim knows, a friend, a husband, a date, a relative AKA people that the victim cares about, or is close to, or has family and friends who will believe the rapist. Your dismissal is ignorant at best. And before you take me out of context. I'm a man. Who happens to be a feminist. Because I care about the well-being of all people.
Emory Babb I train MMA and have helped teach women's self-defense classes. I use firearms and try encourage safety and training for all the women in my life. But I want to address the problem and not the symptoms. I agree that armed and dangerous women is a serious deterrent to violent situations, but most rapes, most sexual assaults ARE NOT random acts of violence. They are situations of manipulation and persistence and betrayal of trust. See "The Trauma Myth" by Susan Clancy. http://amzn.to/1qGsQCW If we want to actually address the problem of rape and sexual assault and abuse, we need to start talking about it accurately.
Emory Babb Rape is about power dynamics - and most sexual assaults are perpetrated by someone close to the victim. The "you should learn self-defense and be prepared to shoot your step-dad (or boyfriend)" comment falls a little flat. I'm the type of guy who doesn't blame others for his actions. This campaign is aimed at making men self-police their actions and call out their friends and peers who further the rape-culture mentality.